I haven't mentioned this in my blog because I had wanted to be able to tell a few people in person... it doesn't seem that's going to happen any time soon, so I'll just go for it.
Brace yourselves, this is a long one.
Before going on, let me just clarify that NO, this was not an accident as I'm sure I'm going to be answering that question for the rest of my life.
I am pregnant. Yes, again. No, Avery is not a year old yet. Yes, I understand that breastfeeding doesn't guarantee infertility. Don't worry, I wasn't relying on that.
There is actually a method to my madness. I thought long and hard about how to go about having baby #2. I wanted to do it right, the right way for Jed and I (and Avery). Being that I haven't slept through the night in a year (well, much longer than a year if you count all the trips to the bathroom), I was faced with the question: Do I wait a couple of years until Avery does sleep through the night and then shoot for #2, or do I just do it now, while I'm already totally exhausted, and pray that #2 has better sleep habits than #1?
I don't really know that there is a correct answer to that question, so my husband and I just decided to 'go for it,' and 'go for it' we did. It pretty much happened on the first try. I truly, honestly believe that I am the most fertile woman on Earth. And Jed truly, honestly believes that he has "Super Sperm," as he's so affectionately dubbed it.
So, here were are. Pregnant again. This time, however, things are different.
Last weekend, while my husband was in Las Vegas at a bachelor party, I woke up somewhere around 2am to go and soothe the crying baby, and as I stood there, I just knew something wasn't right. It turned out that I was bleeding, which to a somewhat newly-pregnant woman, is just about the most upsetting thing that can happen to you, especially at 2am with a crying baby and a husband that's 300 miles away stuffing dollar bills into a hooker's G-string.
It wasn't good. I called my husband, and there wasn't much he could do at that point. He did offer to fly home, right then and there, and of course I said "No," knowing that his coming home wasn't really going to stop me from having a miscarriage if I was having one.
The next morning, I woke up worried, hoping the same thing wasn't going to happen to me when I stood up out of bed, and it didn't. I wanted someone to talk to, but didn't want to bother anyone too early in the morning, so I called my mom. I have that "call anytime" freedom with her. She wasn't home, or at least she didn't answer.
I figured I'd just lay low and hope for the best. I called my friend Anna a couple of times, but didn't get an answer. She still hasn't called me back, actually. I just wanted to tell someone and have them tell me it would all be alright, even if they were just saying so to calm me down and get me the hell off of the phone.
My husband tried, but having him so far away made him feel helpless and made me feel resentful. I tried dismissing those feelings, and was able to 'buck up.' Afterall, it had only happened that one time, I was probably okay.
Monday morning I went in to have my blood drawn so they could run some tests. While I was there, it happened again. My heart was pounding so hard. Having Avery with me helped a little (because I can look at her and feel SO thankful for the baby that I already have) but at the same time made it so hard, because I knew I should really go upstairs and see if I could be seen by the OB if possible. Not exactly a situation where you should have a baby with you... I chose to go upstairs, and two hours later, left not feeling any better at all. The doctor told me he couldn't even tell whether or not I was pregnant because I have something called a "tipped uterus" and I'm only 9 weeks along. THAT made me feel so reassured...
Wednesday I went back to get more blood drawn, and a quantatative analysis was done comparing Monday's with Wednesday's blood; the nurse today said "my numbers looked good." Now they're sending me this coming Monday to get an ultrasound done. I'm sure they want to see whether or not the baby has a heartbeat at this point (which should be able to be detected on the ultrasound) and if things seem normal so far.
I'm feeling fine, but this pregnancy is KICKING my ass. I am so tired, I would love nothing more than to crawl into a ball and sleep until December. Since that's not a reality, my compromise is to go to bed at like 8:30pm. It (sort of) works for the time being. The only problem is waking up all night, tossing and turning, needing to pee, soothing the baby, telling my dog to stop snoring, telling my husband to stop snoring, you get the picture.
So... on the one hand, I'm so excited (after the initial shock that we managed to do it on the FIRST try) and yet, I'm afraid to be excited in case something is wrong. I jumped the gun and bought Avery
this cute T-shirt, but I'm afraid to put it on her until I know more and feel more comfortable with the situation.
I know what's meant to be is meant to be, but the not knowing is what is killing me. If you can spare a moment to think of us on Monday as I get the ultrasound done, I'd appreciate it.